Sometimes, I am a cultural idiot.

And now back to our regularly scheduled programming—apologies for the theological interruption.




Many of you know that in my former life, I was involved in The Vagina Monologues. One of the most memorable parts of the show, at least among the Wellesley crowd, is “The Happy Fact” – a pithy ode to that mysterious organ of pleasure known as the clitoris. So, deciding I was going to be a brave and empowering Life Skills teacher, I devoted a significant chunk of my female anatomy lesson to translating and reciting the Happy Fact with my students. We giggled, chanted, high-fived. It was pretty adorable. I left the classroom feeling particularly proud of myself—I had finally found something from my pre-Peace Corps experience that felt relevant here. Most of the time I feel like I’m totally unprepared, making everything up as I go.

A few hours later, a shy female student came up to me in private.

“Madam Lauren,” she asked, her mouth curling into an embarrassed smile, “is it true that men prefer women who are ‘cut’?”

My heart momentarily stopped. I felt like be most insensitive person ever. The student was using a local euphemism for female genital mutilation/cutting (FGM/C) – a series of controversial practices which include cutting or removing part or all of the clitoris, sometimes going so far as to include the labia majora and minora. It dawned on me like a piano falling from the sky that some of the students I had just forced to recite an ode to the clitoris did not, in fact, have a clitoris.

I had been so apprehensive about approaching the topic, I had almost forgot about FGM. It seemed like the kind of cultural territory I was too foreign to be touching. But at this point it was too late, so I decided to go with it and try to turn my error into a learning opportunity—for me as well as my students.

The next class period, I held a session exclusively devoted to FGM, where we talked about the biological facts—how woman who are circumcised are more likely to die during childbirth or develop fistula, how there is no biological benefit to circumcision, how there are alternatives to the practice that are legal (FGM is technically illegal in Tanzania) and have been accepted by many tribes throughout the region. The students asked a lot of impersonal questions and seemed academically interested in the concept, but seemed reluctant to connect it to their own lives.

At the end of the session, I noticed that the girls had completely shut up, though they seemed to have questions left to ask. So we kicked out the boys and held a woman-to-woman heart-to-heart.

The girls told me that “the cut” is very underground, taboo, but still practiced in this community. It usually takes place during young childhood, though the age varies by tribe. Some of the girls were unsure whether or not they had received the operation. I suggested they ask their mothers. They laughed a “The mzungu’s being an idiot again” laugh-- I’m getting pretty used to it these days. I was, as usual, missing something.

“We’d get smacked for even mentioning it!” they told me, as though this was obvious.

So instead we drew pictures and talked about how they could find out for themselves.

Afterwards, I asked what they would do if they one day had a baby girl and their husband or mother wanted to circumcise her. “Waelimishe! Wataelewa!” they all responded in chorus. “We should educate them! They’ll understand!” I was floored, yet again. Critical thinking isn’t a normal part of their school curriculum, so my hypothetical questions are usually met with silence and exasperated looks.

I was beaming, legitimately this time, as I walked out of the classroom. I’ve had a few girls come up to me since and thank me for helping break the silence. Now that they understand the real dangers, they told me, they refuse to continue the practice with the next generation. I won’t ever know whether they were serious, but it felt good to hear it.



Less successful was my Life Skills session on masturbation. I tried to present it as a healthy alternative to “ngono zembe”—unsafe sex. We talked about the biological and health consequences (for those of you who don’t know, masturbation does not, in fact, lead to infertility or blindness). At the end of the session, a student raised his hand. “Even if that’s all true, which I doubt, isn’t it still true that God hates you if you masturbate?”

I tried to put my on “culturally sensitive” hat.

“I’m not a religious leader, I’m a teacher. Unless someone here has God’s cell phone number”—a stupid joke that got me a ego-inflatingly large laugh—“I’m just going to stick to biological facts.”

The lesson continued.

At the end of the session, I asked—“So, who still thinks that masturbation is a terrible sin and will bring disease and the wrath of an angry God down upon you?”

Forty out of forty-eight hands shot up into the air. The remaining eight were raised slightly slower, less certainly. Though that probably had less to do with their conviction and more to do with my broken and sometimes hard to understand Swahili.

I stared at them, hoping they were just trying to annoy me. They were all grinning, but looked somehow sincere.

Oh well. I'm learning.